On the 19th of this month, I went to Chandigarh to a marriage and I must say most of the things there were quite nice.
The arrangements were great, the food was amazing and the crowd was beautiful but all the while I felt that there is something that is missing big time and at the end of it all it came to me that there is no music around!
This was the first wedding that I have attended in which the DJ was standing still and a people were just roaming and chatting and not dancing.
I asked why is is so from some of the local guests and they told me that in Chandigarh you are not allowed to play music loud after half past 10 in the night.
So, what would have been a great party attended by me turned into a hollow feeling colorful night out.
All this made me realized that music is a real component of parties and other gatherings.
[question posted by coolmailraj]
responses and comments:
why did they hire a dj then? a party or wedding with out music is just sad!! and boring!! [moonlitmagikchild]
For a playback of an hour from half past 9 to half past 10 but the program started at quarter past 10 itself. [coolmailraj]
Hi there! Well, I would feel the same if I was there. I think that music is a very important in life. I like listening to music everyday and I think that I wouldn't want to celebrate a special occasion without any music playing in the background. I understand the rule about preventing noise that would keep the neighbors from getting a good night's sleep but they could've play some music in low volume. [nanayangel]
That was what they did, they placed 10 speakers at different points on low volume but the whisper of the crowd over did the sound of the speakers. [coolmailraj]
A wedding without music would be very boring. Music is necessary in a sweet and memorable ceremony such as wedding so if this is absent, then it will be very incomplete. It is just like a food full of all the necessary ingredients but lacks salt and hence tastes bland. Music is like salt. Without music in a wedding it will be pale and colorless no matter how beautiful the Decorations are. [salonga]
That was why I felt tasteless too... Happy mylotting [coolmailraj]
It is really a pitty there was no music and dancing at the wedding. Maybe they did not arrange the event at other venues like in the garden or park at an earlier time of the day, for lack of financial resources. Though a pity, we'll have to accept with understanding attitude. Nevertheless, it is a good rule to avoid bothering neighbors with loud noises. Although we do not have such rules down here, people have same expectation. For instance, home decoration with loud drilling noises are not accepted after eight in the evening, and teenager gatherings usually will calm down after something like ten. [zhuhuifen46]
Here to, at my home town there are no restrictions on late night parties and loud music and seeing the arrangements and families of the wedding couple I don't think they are a single bit financially challenged. [coolmailraj]
Well, I love music and if I was in your spot I would also feel a bit upset because a wedding or any celebration needs music so we can all be happy and dance, let our hair go out and go crazy. hahaha. That sucks that you can't play loud music after 10:30, If there gonna make that rule, they should change the time to 11:30, as that's not too bad. [pweety_princess]
I agree with you, 11:30 is not bad at all. [coolmailraj]
Wow. I can't imagine there being a party without any music whatsoever. [allyoftherain]
I too wish I never attend any such party again. [coolmailraj]
That is odd. You would think that they could have at least had some quiet background music. And why couldn't they play louder music before half past 10? Why even have a DJ there, just to look pretty? Oh well, look at the bright side. It got you out of the hostel for a while, right? [catdla1]
I guess my description of the whole scenario lacked few key features.... by the way, it was nice of you to drop by and respond.. thanks. [coolmailraj]
Hi CoolMailRaj, here in my country, they always have there wedding dinner in restaurant or in hotel, so it would be nice that you can play your music as you like, because it won't disturb others people. But If you are prepare the wedding dinner at outsite of your house, then you would be think about your neighbours, 10pm or 10:30 pm will be the time to turn low the volume, for hotel, may be you can set the time you want. I had been attend a dance party untill 3am in the morning, so you can enjoy party as fun. [my125125]
Wow, 500 guests are big party, for me, chinese always get hotel or restaurant to be their wedding dinner party places, because hotel, they have banquet for us to rent a night, so more than 500 guests is not a problem. [my125125]
It is odd that they did not have the music playing softly in the background. Music is important to many of us. I know myself if I have a difficult or distasteful chore to do, when I have on 'praise' music I find it much easier to do what I have to do. [wifeofharvey]
indeed it is so with me also. At most of the time when I am accessing net I hear to music and while jogging or traveling too, one om players is always running. [coolmailraj]
I am surprised to came from your discussion that no music were played due to their rules. anyway, i am least happy, they follow and obey the rules.. moreover, celebrating in a silent manner is also not a bad thing.. that will be a different way of enjoyment which also gives a little practice in that moment to remain same & static even in joy.. Thanks for sharing this information.. Have a nice time! [raghul77ster]
I am kind of surprised to hear that people can celebrate without music. It is not like I am a party animal and like hard music but this was indeed my first time in attending a function without music. We people love to dance and have colors around when we celebrate. [coolmailraj]
Your ideas are right .No music is so unbearable!But I do't like too loud music ,and it too unbearable.Enjoy my side of cooking while listening to music. [queenie1234]
Never tried music while cooking....actually never tried cooking..lol. But i got your point, I too keep my players running while working most of the household chores. happy mylotting. [coolmailraj]
Music is a big component in our lives and not just during parties or gathering. I cannot drive from one place to another without having my mP3 plugged into my car's auxiliary and blasting the music all the way up. Music is the most essential thing in our lives right now and frankly no one can live without it especially not me. [killhawaii]
Frankly yes. I do most of the time do crank up my music cause that is the best way to listen to it. I like my music to be loud. Sometimes when I am not in the mood then I will listen to calm music like classical or like 1940s or 50s like of Nat King Cole etc. [killhawaii]
A wedding without music what a shame! It's the one night you would want everyone to party and help you celebrate! I guess that's the way things are done there they should be respected. I wonder if the bride and groom wished they had some music. You don't realize how dull life can be without music. Speaking for myself, aside from my laptop I would have to say my MP3 player is one of my prized possessions! happy [paula27661]
Same here dear, about the possessions. I guess the groom was actually okay with it as he denied another location where they could have played high volumes till morning without any restrictions. I wonder what made him do that. [coolmailraj]
That was indeed a uniquie wedding! I note your shock because even here in Uganda, any wedding without Music would be considered absolutely strange and the happiness in that wedding would be put to doubt. Weddings are moments of joy and joy is usually expressed through music! [academic2]
But the smiles there never allowed us to doubt the happiness around, it was just the fact that music was absent and I agree with most of what you have said. [coolmailraj]
Is it true? i feel very bored with out music in any party. [punmsharma]
Thanks for your response. [coolmailraj]
We live in a time when music can and usually is a large part of our life. Didn't they dance at the wedding? Maybe they don't believe in dancing or music? Some Christian religions don't allow these. [savypat]
They are Hindus and we all love dancing and music, that is precisely why it was a bit strange for me. They even have a few good dancers in their family. I have seen them moving on beats a couple of times before. [coolmailraj]
I wonder what it looks like if the wedding has no music as background or so. Anyway what is important is that the newly wed is happy that they are now together. I know that in different cultures, in every wedding they celebrate it with festivities and different ways, really happy to see an environment of one who is getting married. Anyway if their place has a restriction of not playing music at that time, they are at least obeying the law. If ever the wedding was morning, i am sure that it would be a livelier one. [strawberrychocodahi]
Can't agree with you more. Seeing the two, it seemed that they are well knit together, hope it remains this way for ever. Thanks for your response. [coolmailraj]
Well I cannot imagine a wedding without some party music and people dancing, IT would have something missing. However there are traditions of different countries, and if the couple is happy in having a wedding without music then all guests must be happy. it is their special day, and if they are enjoying it them guests will sure have fun chatting with each other. [GAUCI123]
That is exactly what we did. Thanks for your response. [coolmailraj]
I agree with you that music adds life to every occasion, including interment. More so to parties and other festive gatherings like a wedding. Well, at least, in Chandigarh you can be sure that you will always have a restful night every time. [aprilten]
That's really odd. So what good was the DJ? I appreciate regulations that look out for the comfort of others, such as limiting loudness after a certain hour, but 10 sounds pretty early to me! Too bad. [mechanicNOT62]
Well I guess they had to keep with ordinances of where they were, and be kind. Not all weddings have to have a DJ though but I think I know what you mean by just music in general. I don't know if all parties need music though, you have to take into consideration parties for children as well, they don't have to have music as the adults would most likely be the only ones enjoying besides playing kids music! [SomeCowgirl]
Hi coolmailraj, That is a shame for that country to have such a rule, even if you have the music low surely they shoould be allowd the is terriable, at least everything went well. Tamara [tamarafireheart]
Of course, the music is the soul of the party, adn creates special moments, so that marriage meybe wasnt so special at all. [juliotostado]
w00t I have never heard of of a wedding Celebration that never allowed music and left the DJ standing.if the Groom and Bride knew that it was not allowed to make a loud sound after 10pm why wouldn't they wanna start the wedding in the morning instead of evening? happy. You i think it's either the schedule got delayed with other stuff and they were forced to to do it at night that's why there's a DJ. or they simply didn't want any music in their wedding to make more memorable]. i don't know what did the guest said after the wedding. but i am sure, they got sleepy.yawn. [Greeneagle24]
Yeah truly, I agree with you. A celebration without music to add the enchantment of it all is a total flat! I just can't imagine a jubilation without music! I wish them all luck! hehehe! [mjmlagat]
Goodness!I cannot imagine weddings without music, it is better to have no food, but music?no I cannot stand it. Actually music is part of any parties much more weddings it is through music that we can feel the ceremony and the wonderful environment of the wedding events, in fact most couples who are getting married really spent a lot of money hiring choirs and musicians to have a memorable and lively celebration. When I get married I will see to it that there are lots of music and dancing and singing to make it memorable and wonderful, I will select my own wedding songs and music. [jlamela]
hai friend according to my point of view music in a marriage is myust. nowadays all marrige are with muusic .we can't see a marriage with ot any music. Even a poor families marriage function will have a music. it should be arranged.because ifor marriage we are spending lot of money.then why not for muusic in that function. regards suresh [msureshmca06]
May be the music is a real component of parties.If there is no music in the happy time,people will feel missing something,or let people feel hollow.But in other way,I think,without music,let's have a quiet time,face to face,heart to heart,chating and laughing,it is maybe also a nice thing. I don't know how about my wedding will be,hehe^... [o_utsider]
true, so true, a gathering should have a music, it stimulates the atmosphere... you play fast and loud songs during celebrations and festivities you play solemn ones on ceremonies pretty sad not to be able to play anything, to make the moment more enjoyable [Mathurin]
You need music at a gathering like a wedding.surely they could have had a bit of music till ten pm then turned it off.xx [suzzy3]
true, parties would not be lively and happy with out music. especially with weddings! a time to celebrate for 2 people who will share their life together... a time to celebrate it should have music!!!..:) [elai0412]
I can't think of a wedding without music. [daliaj]
A wedding without music is defeinitely a very boring occasion. Every occasion should have accompanying music on the background, even funerals have sorrowful music played. Birthdays, Baptism, every occasion has their own themes and music.. they should have hired a dj or even just a compilation of songs in a cd. [galileo2008]
wow I never heard of that before that is really strange. [winterose]
Oh yes, you are very correct. Indian weddings are very colourful with songs and dance and music to liven it all up. However, loud recorded music with live DJs have become more of a fashion and show of wealth these days. Earlier, the women of the house used to sing and dance among themselves and the very rich would hire shehnai players to play live at the weddings. I have not been to many weddings outside my community (Bengali) but I think traditionally north-Indian weddings are more loud and exuberant than south-Indian weddings. As for Bengali weddings, it's a very muted affair with the women singing folksongs during the various ceremonies….nowadays even that does not happen and frankly speaking most of our generation don't even know the lyrics of typical wedding songs in Bengali. Music is a must though and is provided by recorded shehnai which is played all through the evening. [sudiptacallingu]
I cannot imagine a gathering of any kind without music! Music is such an integral part of our lives from cleaning house to formal rituals. Usually when the music ends it means the party is over. It is so unusual to not even have soft music playing in the background. Also, I am sure the people who planned the wedding new about the noise ordinance. It would seem if this is a rule that you plan your celebration earlier in the day, at least that is what I would have done. [Canellita]
A ceremony without music that is hard to comprehend even. [coolmailpankaj]
Music is the very soul of our existence. [sciantel]