When I was a teen, I always used head phones,
mostly cause my mom didn't want me to listen to
heavy metal.
Anyway, it was none of her business what I was
listening to anyway, as long as I was home.
These days, I don't use headphones, but often
wish that I did.
Whenever I'm listening to my music, my daughter
comes into the room and turns it down or asks me
to turn down my music.
And, when she's watching TV, I'm always asking
her to turn down the volume.
So I guess we annoy each other with our loud music and shows.
Do you ever turn the volume down on your music to keep
from annoying people or just leave it where it is?
[question posted by beautyqueen26]
responses and comments:
Since I live alone now, I don't have to worry about that, but when my daughter lived here, we used to both keep our music and any other noise low, or only listen when the other was out. It took awhile for her to get the idea, though. happy [peavey]
When my kids got too big to carry but would whine to be carried, I often told them that they would have to carry me. lolIt helped. I am an ironic type person, I guess. When my daughter went to the fair with me, and several older friends, she complained about being too tired to walk. At seven or eight years old, she was definitely too big to be carried, so I suggested she cartwheel instead. Do you know what? She liked that suggestion and was quite happy to do so.w00t [GardenGerty]
As a teen your mother not only had a right, but a responsibility to be involved in your life. I know it is not what you wanted to hear, but I will risk it, because someday you may be a parent. It is a common courtesy to adjust volume or wear headsets and I have very expensive ones so everyone can truly enjoy what they are listening too. I hope you live long enough to appreciate how great it is to have a mother who cared what you listened to, even if you disagreed. [Trensue]
I am hoping never to lecture my Grandchildren like my father - I already failed with the kids! [Trensue]
I don't like playing music loud, be it of any kind. As long as I can listen to it and it's not distractingly or alarmingly loud to others, I retain my right to play it for as long as and whenever I wish. Besides I as well keep the door closed, so it gets a bit subdued when it reaches their ears. I hope you could find some way out to do the same - maybe you could try plugging in cotton and insist your daughter on the same, so you don't have to reduce volume one another? [I_LUV_U]
I only listen to music when I am alone, or with headphones. I am constantly turning the television down. My hubby is hard of hearing. Does not want to replace his hearing aids. Mostly we are not at home or listening at the same time. It is okay. Your daughter is not that old, is she? [GardenGerty]
Hi beauty, My mother used to come into my room to tell me turn the music down, in my days we didn't have headphones and now my hubby tell me to turn the tv down, so nothing has change there. Tamara [tamarafireheart]
Hi, beauty. When I was in college and lived in the dorm, I used to use a headphone to avoid disturbing my roommates because we had different preference to music. My roommates used a headphone, too. I think as long as we live in the same room, it is important not to annoy others. That's a way of showing respect to others. Now, I live alone and don't have to worry about disturbing others any more, so I'm able to fully enjoy my favourite music without wearing a headphone which is actually harmful to our ears. [chenxiaoyue_713]
This is a trivial matter ,let me feel that everyone should be given some space for others it is to you my understanding and support! But as such a small occurrence of the incident angered at all . This is one I feel helpless! [protel87]
I usually listen to music with head phones in the office where there is need of silence. At home I volume it down for ambient mode not to cause loud noise in the house. [technoobs]
This reminds me. I always wore radio headphones at my job (in a huge library). One day, a pernickity* co-worker got up from his desk far across the enormous room in which I was filing something, came over to me & told me my radio was bothering him! I was stupefied! I don't like headphones set at ear-bleeding levels, so he must have had remarkably good hearing to hear them at all...unless...it was a trick of the acoustics. I don't know. I just know that beginning that day, & ever afterward, whenever he was there, I always policed my volume, though it bugged me because it made it a bit hard to catch everything--& I have great hearing! Maggiepie *This is the original, correct spelling of what now gets an argument from the spellchecker. Sigh. I'm such a dinosaur.... rolleyes [Maggiepie]
I think it's necessary to turn down your music or your TV volume when you annoying ohers.and i think this is a way to respect other people.Everyone have their own space and don't want to others to disturb.especially when we want to have a rest .someone paly loudly music TV or some other noise,it's really drive me carzy! [Ruby722]
Yes.I think it a polite way to others.And I know it is not my own life ,I should take care of others'life too .Often ,I just listen to music at my own room.It is a good way ,isn't it?But I have to say ,I only like to listen to some soft pieces and I don't like rocks. [gft19810101]
I always have my headphones on when I have people at home. Both my mom and dad are working. So When they are not home, I use the speakers, but when they are at home, I prefer to use headphones cos the music that I listen to, doesn't gel with their interests. In fact it's nice to listen to music on personal players because you get to enjoy the music properly. If I'm not using headphones, then I make sure that the door is closed and only some sound can go out of my room. They usually ask me to lower the volume, but I just close the door hard and make sure that less sounds escapes. bournehappy [bournecaindelta]
I am sharing the house with my friends and each of us rented a room, so whenever i want listen to the music or watch the movie, i'll try to be as considerate as i can. If they not around, so i'll increase the volume and will try to turn the volume down whenever they are in the house. [kelvidpang]
only if somebody's sleeping.i have to really blast it to be heard downstairs. though to be fair,i wait til people leave for work sometimes.especially if it's something like sepultura [scarlet_woman]
it depends on my mood. if i have bad mood, i will play it very hard. i don't care what other say. i like rock music. it's very peacefull [ptcholic001]
Good heavens. How old are you? It's all about you, isn't it? Gah.... Maggiepie [Maggiepie]
I don't like loud music, but normally I'd rather move away. I don't like to give others feeling that I am not easy to cooperate with. [dozhou]
I think there is a little cold war between you and your daughter.lol But sometimes even my parents are telling me to low the volume. I think it happens everywhere and everyone has to do that because annoying them will not do and it may create a bit anger against each other. We should listen it as friendly suggestion and request it to the other in a very friend manner. [rakesh284]
No I don't because there are doors for every room so if hubby didn't want to hear my music then he could close the door. lol Besides, as long as I have my hearing aids on, I don't turn it up too loud and if I wanted it louder, I'd turn my aids up. lol There are SOME advantages to being hearing impaired! LMBO!! My brother says he envies me because I sleep like a baby even with so much noise because he wakes up at the sound of a pin drop. rolleyes yawn [CatsandDogs]
Buy yourself a decent set of headphones, you and your daughter will not regret it I assure you. I listen to quite a lot of music, so I think it would be unfair on my neighbours if I was playing loud music all the time, not that I am saying you do this. Sometime I like to play my music on the speakers, like on a nice day or when I have a few friends over. [Videogeezer]
Back in high school I would always turned up the volume to the maximum and let the woofer blows as hard as it can.I love loud music and even at midnight I would be letting it off at the max.I think it annoyed my neighbours but I did not care that time and I was doing it on my demand.Until a certain age when I entered University I started to dislike loud noises and slowly integrate to slower musics and lower volumes.It is a good thing since I can now save my ear drums from blowing off. [maikarumike]
I simply use my ipod, before I use to have problems with everyone else, but now I go away from them and put in my headphones. [baz5687]
I'm an earbud user. I never have to deal with anyone walking over and messing around with the volume. That is, unless they are inches away from my head, and are nosy enough to pull out on of the buds to hear what I'm listening to. if they went to the trouble of doing that, I'd have no problem with playing my music loud without regard for rhythmless human life. Of course, using earbuds has it's disadvantages. Depending on who you are, you may have to deal with people who love to assume that you listen to certain acts in certain genres. When they go off on a mini rant about how that particular genre is "dead" becuase the current generation has no idea what they are doing, I can simply increase the volume and ddrown out their excessive whining. [cbjones]
of course i do that but it is a pity that the people around me do not extend the same gesture to me, all they want to do is play their lousy music and take the volume to the highest, sometimes i wonder why people do that and they don't even consider that others are affected by their behaviour,maybe next time i take the volume of my music to the highest too [tundeemma]
You know, the thing I hate most is when folks take their frikken loud music into Camping areas, & act as though they're in their frakken LIVING ROOM. Don't they realize many (most?) of us go to the countryside to get away from such racket?!? Grrr! angry Maggiepie [Maggiepie]
Hi there beauty queen. I live with my parents, but i generally listen to music at a low level... i usually stay on the laptop, so no matter how high i raise the volume it is still not to loud. I only sometimes listen to music a little louder than normal, but even then, it doesn't bother my parents as i generally put some music that they also like or at least tolerate. [elitess]
Soudns familar! good to be considerate of others. Headphones are good and I oftne use them. I find TV annoying as it's next to my room and I like quiet activities. When I'm watching it esp when others are sleeping I am mindful of the noise and adjust the vol when there's rowdy bits [Elspethr]
hi i sing along with the music played. i would love to scream and sing. i live in an apartment. that really bothers me. Even my family members would think that i m a nut. i m always conscious about it. but nowadays i do not care. i sing, scream. play music loud. nothing can stop me from being ME. lol :) [andresimp]
Maybe. But you can bet your poojies that your landlord may decide you can be yourself someplace else, if enough noise complaints are registered against you. I'm just sayin'.... rasp happy Maggiepie [Maggiepie]
When I was a teenager, I was constantly being told to turn my stereo down.angry I try not to listen to it as loud as I did back then because I don't want to lose my hearing.happy It runs on my mother's side of the family to get hard of hearing the older you get, too. I live by myself now so I don't have to be concerned about whether I'm disturbing anybody else or not. I do turn it down if I think it's a little too loud, though.surrender Kathy. [cyrus123]
Three of us in the house are up during the day, the other goes to bed around 11 Am, or sometimes a little later. We have to be courteous, lol, especially since this person works night shift... and pays for our food, lol. It's mostly quiet here during the day, but sometimes it's not. We turn down music, and t.v. to be courteous to one another. Although there are times we annoy each other. Growing up, the t.v. seemed to always be loud, whether at my mom's or my grandparents, the t.v. was always blaring and in competition with the fans, or other t.v's throughout the house. [SomeCowgirl]
music can calm down people's expression, listening it can feel better. but somebody are doing something when i turn on the music too loud ,mybe you can see that the sound can interupt somebody,they seemed very angryat like that.we need quite life in family and know each other, making a living feel better. so when they think that the music is so loud can annoying others in the house ,i can turn the volume down [bingchen]
I've always been courteous about not playing loud music when I'm somewhere someone will be annoyed by it. And by the way, it certainly was your mom's business. She fed you, clothed you, paid for a place for you to live--& shared it with you, & she had a legal responsibility for you, as well. Some music is very unhealthy for some ages, & she had every right to try to fight your brain being corrupted, for your own good. Now that you're grown, you can do whatever you like, but when you're under your parents' care, they have all the rights to keep you healthy, safe, & sane. If you (or your wife) are still annoying folks with loud TVs or music, get one of those "TV Ears," or some other form of quiet listening device. It's the courteous thing to do. Maggiepie [Maggiepie]
I never have mine too loud because I live in an upstairs flat above a guy who works shift work, so I know that whatever time of day or evening it is, he could be trying to sleep. It puts me off my computer work also, when it's loud, so I just tend to have it as a low, background music. Brightest Blessings. [Darkwing]
Hello beauty queen. It made me smile when you say that it was none of her business what you were listening to anyway, as long as you were home. Because the same words sometimes come from my rebellious teen son when we ask him not to do something that is not so helpful. Then he would say, "It is none of your business, Mom". He usually says so to his mom though. Well, let's get to the point of the topic. Usually if all of the family love to listen to the music being played, it is ok to turn it up, but if one gets annoyed, then we turn it down a little bit. Take care, friend. [williamjisir]
I like to listen to my music with headphones on to drown out background noise. My husband is going deaf, and likes to have the TV up really loud, and I, on the other hand, am legally blind with super sensitive hearing, and can't take the noise, so I like music with headphones to drown it out. [danishcanadian]